… That’s what He told me before asking if I was ready.
I think that He’s asked me that before: “Are you ready?” and I’m sure that I either said no or ignored Him altogether – because, well … I wasn’t. The walls, the false sense of protection, had become comfortable to me. They’d become my home. I’ve lived with them for almost 25 years.
I didn’t really know that I had them. I couldn’t tell you the exact day that I began building them, but I know that I was a little girl when I decided that I needed to protect myself. I was a little girl when I vowed that I wouldn’t allow anyone close enough to hurt me. I was young, much too young, but I made the promise all the same. I promised to shield myself from any form of pain, and I believed that I had to be the one to do it because no one else would.
So, for decades I didn’t feel pain. I’m not saying that nothing bad ever happened to me or that everything went the way I wanted it to. I’m saying that I didn’t FEEL the pain.
As a Christian, I even prided myself on my ability to easily forgive. I didn’t hold grudges. I let it roll off my shoulders when someone didn’t treat me with respect. I had the whole “dust off your shoulders” move down to a T. Sticks and stones, right?
That was how I lived my life, and it seemed to be working great for me. Except … I found that I was needing to forgive others way more often than I’d liked. I was attracting people in my life who would end up hurting me. What was going on? Why do I end up in the same situation? What am I doing wrong?
“Are You Ready?” – He would ask me again.
“Not yet, Lord” was my response. “Let me just patch up this wall. That last hit almost knocked it all the way down, but I’m stronger than that. I’m still stronger. I’ll just move on. I can handle it. ”
Imagine having an invisible shield around you that kept you from feeling pain, yet couldn’t stop the effects that the painful experience caused to your body. That’s what was going on in my heart.
It was like I kept touching a hot stove or removing pans straight out of the oven barehanded. After years of blocking the sensation of pain, I could no longer feel the burn when it happened; my arms and my hands, however, were still being damaged. I could see scars and blisters appear, I would notice flesh being exposed, but I didn’t know exactly what was causing that to happen. Since I couldn’t identify the circumstances that caused the burning and bruising, I continued to put myself in harms way.
It wasn’t that I wanted to get hurt. I was protecting myself against the wrong thing. The same walls that prevented me from feeling the pain, prevented Christ from healing it.
“Are you ready, yet?”
“I think so”, I responded and slowly started letting my guard down.
That’s when He started speaking …
When you’re ready to finally feel your pain, go ahead and do it, it’s safe out here. Let me warn you, it’s going to sting a little. You’re going to feel it all at once. But fear not, because I AM here.
You will feel the times you experienced rejection. You will feel the times you experienced betrayal. You will feel the moments that you thought you were unloved, unworthy, alone, and unprotected. You’ll feel it all. It WILL hurt. I AM here, still.
I want to heal you, but I can’t heal what you refuse to feel.
I need you to acknowledge the pain. I need you to be fully aware of what I am healing, the lies that I am replacing, and the fear that I am casting out. So go ahead, sweetie. Let me heal you. Once I do, you will experience a new freedom.
Let those walls down. It’s ok. Trust me.
So I did it. I asked the Lord to reveal situations and experiences where I felt that I needed to protect myself. I asked Him to bring me back to those moments so that I could acknowledge the hurt that actually happened.
He was right. It hurt and I couldn’t stop crying.
But just as suddenly as I began feeling the pain, I started feeling the Father’s love in a way that I hadn’t felt before. I felt healing taking place. The tears of pain turned into tears of gratitude and admiration for my Abba. As the walls of protection were being broken down, the love of God began to flood in. He now had access to parts of my heart that I once kept Him out of. He wasn’t satisfied with just pieces – He wanted the whole thing.
Everything He said was true. That truth brought me to a new level of freedom. It allowed me to move past surface level forgiveness that I’d been accustomed to granting. It established a deeper level of intimacy with Him.
I felt the pain for a moment, but the subsequent healing is eternal.
And it’s the best feeling that I’ve ever had.
I no longer need to guard myself. God’s peace will handle that for me – just like He promised.
“Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.” – Philippians 4:7
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